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Training videos, to complement the book are available for purchase by those who confirm they are mental health professionals. Pseudonyms are used in the introductions of the Stage 1and Stage 2 videos below. Each training video is subtitled and punctuated with commentary noting interventions, steps and stages and other therapeutic processes. Along with the purchase of each training video is a pdf introducing the video and an annotated transcript.

Videos 1&2
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$92
Video 1
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$49
Video 2
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$49
Video 3
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$49

Video Descriptions

Video 1 : Stage 1 EFT Video : Ted and Jed

A Stage 1 session of a gay couple illustrates elements of the first change event of EFT – de-escalation. Metaphorically they de-escalate their automatic cycle of a train gathering speed, away from the station, by accessing the underlying fears that are powering the train. The more pursuing partner, whom I will call Ted, acknowledges he fires up and becomes like the scorched earth in Gone with the Wind, when his more withdrawn partner, Jed, describes the “all flight, no fight” panic that overcomes him in the face of Ted’s outbursts. This video complements Chapters 4 and 5. Chapter 4 is Assessment and alliance: The attachment experience of steps 1 and 2. Chapter 5 is The tyranny of unheeded attachment fears: Unpacking emotion in the de-escalation change event: (Steps 3 and 4).

The video begins with clarifying the simple Step 2 of EFT: The cue that each partner receives from the other that triggers a sense of attachment threat and the automatic self- protective moves or actions that made in reaction to these perceived threats. The cue for Ted is a look of admonishment or disapproval on Jed’s face or any sign that Jed may be about to flee. This moves him to quick reactions of angry complaints. The cue for Jed is Ted’s raised voice. This triggers his reaction of getting out of the way and letting the train run its course – what he calls his reaction of “all flight no fight”.

Video 2: Stage 2 EFT Video : Ben and Meg

An EFT Stage 2 session, of a couple with a more withdrawn female partner and a more pursuing male partner, demonstrates the consolidation of withdrawer re-engagement change event, and the third change event of EFT – known as blamer softening. This complements Chapters 6 and 7 – Working with emotion to shape the withdrawer re- engagement and blamer softening change events. Prior to completing these change events, the couple uses poignant, attachment images: “Meg” describes her withdrawer’s attachment panic of rejection and disapproval as a fire hose pelting water in her face and knocking her back and her inner sense of failing as a pot of failure bubbling in her chest. “Ben” describes his pursuer’s attachment panic of getting no response and fearing abandonment as a cold, white marble wall, sliding away, with nothing to hold on to and his dread and fear of loss and abandonment as a rock in his chest. Expanded themes of blamer softening, identified by Bradley and Furrow and presented in Chapter 7, are seen in the video. They culminate in Step 7 reaches, met with engaged responses, illustrating antidotes to attachment fears that heighten the safety of the bond.

Video 3: NEW Stage 2 Video!

From De-escalation to Withdrawer Re-engagement:

“Stay with Me - Don’t Go Away”

See the EFT Tango in action as the therapist consolidates de-escalation and choreographs withdrawer re-engagement. Increasing safety is emerging between Robert and Marsha (pseudonyms), married nearly 48 years. In their typical pattern, both partners have moves of angry outbursts and both withdraw. Robert, the first one to withdraw in their negative cycle, describes his biggest fear to be that of being left alone – abandoned, like when his mother walked away from him in disapproval. He takes Marsha getting upset with him to mean that he is somehow letting her down and she will walk away. Marsha, on the other hand, describes her core fear to be that Robert will go quiet and refuse to talk, perceiving that he doesn’t love her.

Robert assembles his skyrocketing anxiety and deepens the core fear that has been driving his rapid solution-giving, followed by anger and silence. He discloses his core fears of disappointing Marsha and of her walking away in disappointment. In her Step 6 Marsha makes a touching shift in view of self and other. Then Robert takes the risk of assertively asking Marsha for what he needs to soothe his fears, especially when he doesn’t know how to give her an answer that will please her (Step 7). They make a powerful step towards securing their bond.

Videos con Subtítulos en Español

Los videos de entrenamiento son un complemento del libro y están disponibles para la compra para aquellas personas que puedan confirmar que son profesionales de la salud mental. Se han utilizado pseudónimos en las introducciones de los videos de Etapa 1, Etapa 2 que aparecen debajo.   Cada video de entrenamiento está subtitulado y contiene comentarios que señalan intervenciones, pasos, etapas y otros procesos terapéuticos.  Junto con la compra de cada video de entrenamiento viene un archivo en pdf que presenta el video y que contiene una transcripción de la sesión.  

Videos 1 y 2
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$92
Video 1
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$49
Video 2
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$49

También a la venta: Modelo de Reparación de Heridas de Apego. Un video demostrativo de una sesión real

Esta pareja ha estado separada por un periodo breve de tiempo. Durante esta separación, el esposo tuvo un amorío con la mejor amiga de su esposa. Cada uno acudió inicialmente a su terapeuta regular por separado y su terapeuta de pareja ha trabajado ahora con ellos dos por aproximadamente 10 sesiones hacia la reparación de su relación. En esta sesión, su terapeuta regular está en la habitación con la terapeuta e instructora certificada por ICEEFT, Lorrie Brubacher, quien está trabajando con ellos. Antes de comenzar los pasos del Modelo de Resolución de las Heridas de Apego de la Terapia Focalizada en las Emociones (EFT MRHA), la terapeuta reúne evidencia de que la pareja ha des-escalado su ciclo negativo y que el replegado, que en este caso es el compañero ofensor, se ha re-involucrado lo suficiente para permanecer presente en el proceso de reparación. Inicialmente es difícil involucrar a la persona herida para que re-experimente el evento que la lastimó, debido a que tenía miedo de que su pareja se apartara nuevamente. La terapeuta se mueve despacio con un foco en la creación de la seguridad suficiente para abordar la herida que necesita resolución. Ella está enfocada en identificar la herida y su significado de apego, ayudando a la parte ofensora a reconocer y entender el incidente desde una perspectiva del apego (lo cual previene que desaparezca empapado de vergüenza) y a re-crear un sentido de seguridad e involucramiento de modo que se den forma a encuentros sanadores entre los compañeros. Ella también se enfoca en los ingredientes clave de EFT: Profundizar la experiencia emocional y darle forma a interacciones afirmativas (abiertas, vulnerables, cálidas y responsivas). El proceso de resolución descrito aquí tiene los elementos clave del evento de cambio conocido como suavizamiento del perseguidor. Esta sesión termina con la consolidación e integración.

Un programa de entrenamiento en inglés describiendo cómo esta sesión representa los 8 pasos del MRHA se encuentra disponible en www.attachmentinjuryrepair.com o a través de www.iceeft.com.

Modelo de Reparación de Heridas de Apego
Acceso de transmisión
$49